Comments on: I have received 2 different reactions from my parents from !BALM!ming them. . . http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/2010/01/06/i-have-received-2-different-reactions-from-my-parents-from-balmming-them/ My journey out of: 21 years as a housewife, stay at home, homeschooling mom of 8 and into one as a entrepreneur business woman/mom Wed, 09 Jun 2010 23:28:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: fromhousewifetofilmmaker http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/2010/01/06/i-have-received-2-different-reactions-from-my-parents-from-balmming-them/comment-page-1/#comment-103 fromhousewifetofilmmaker Mon, 11 Jan 2010 06:51:57 +0000 http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.wordpress.com/?p=1391#comment-103 Ooooo, we, control and not being controlled is a huge matter. One that I've really given attention to over the years and can still see where it crops up. Thank you so much for the encouragement. It is greatly appreciated. I sent it on to John1: my business partner and the one that creates those marvelous gems and to John and Frances who work with us. Theresa Jane Ooooo, we, control and not being controlled is a huge matter. One that I’ve really given attention to over the years and can still see where it crops up.

Thank you so much for the encouragement. It is greatly appreciated. I sent it on to John1: my business partner and the one that creates those marvelous gems and to John and Frances who work with us.
Theresa Jane

]]> By: Kate http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/2010/01/06/i-have-received-2-different-reactions-from-my-parents-from-balmming-them/comment-page-1/#comment-102 Kate Sat, 09 Jan 2010 21:30:56 +0000 http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.wordpress.com/?p=1391#comment-102 Theresa Jane, I appreciate your caution. I have learned that my highest priority in all this to keep my heart open to Love which for me is Father God and to look to His guidance for my next step and timing of it all. I have lived most my life resisting Him/Love because my highest priority used to be to control and resist being controlled. Controlling and not being controlled became my god. To give that up, I thought that I'd become too vulnerable to being hurt, rejected, dominated. To avoid the pain of what I feared was more important than loving myself and others. I choose to make control or being controlled NOT the issue anymore. Love has become more important and I can teach the wounded parts of me this wisdom as they try to dictate my life. Isn't it amazing how God provides each one of us with just the right tools to break free of our imprisonment! As much as I'd like you to benefit from what I've read and learned, I can see that He is guiding you richly with what He wants you to have personally for your own specific way to learn. I think that your desire to create short videos can be a huge lightbulb moment to many who are just coming to grips with the chains that bind them and great encouragement to others already walking through their healing process. You Go Girl! Kate Theresa Jane,
I appreciate your caution. I have learned that my highest priority in all this to keep my heart open to Love which for me is Father God and to look to His guidance for my next step and timing of it all. I have lived most my life resisting Him/Love because my highest priority used to be to control and resist being controlled. Controlling and not being controlled became my god. To give that up, I thought that I’d become too vulnerable to being hurt, rejected, dominated. To avoid the pain of what I feared was more important than loving myself and others. I choose to make control or being controlled NOT the issue anymore. Love has become more important and I can teach the wounded parts of me this wisdom as they try to dictate my life.
Isn’t it amazing how God provides each one of us with just the right tools to break free of our imprisonment! As much as I’d like you to benefit from what I’ve read and learned, I can see that He is guiding you richly with what He wants you to have personally for your own specific way to learn.
I think that your desire to create short videos can be a huge lightbulb moment to many who are just coming to grips with the chains that bind them and great encouragement to others already walking through their healing process.
You Go Girl!
Kate

]]> By: fromhousewifetofilmmaker http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/2010/01/06/i-have-received-2-different-reactions-from-my-parents-from-balmming-them/comment-page-1/#comment-101 fromhousewifetofilmmaker Fri, 08 Jan 2010 19:34:52 +0000 http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.wordpress.com/?p=1391#comment-101 Hi Kate, I think you're making an awesome step. An important step that should be made in a delicate way. What I mean by delicate is, take your time, go slow, and make sure your partner understands you and will support your history. I recommend that you read the book: Red Book and Cotton as this book, I believe, will assist you to travel a journey that leads to true-freedom. I also recommend that you view my two videos at John's YouTube channel (www.youtube.com/johnsolomonsandridge) and consider using the process of !BLAM!ming to heal your past as it is mine. The titles of the video's are: 45 and I Still Fear my Mother's Voice and How and Why to !BLAM! paRENTS. Theresa Jane Hi Kate,
I think you’re making an awesome step. An important step that should be made in a delicate way. What I mean by delicate is, take your time, go slow, and make sure your partner understands you and will support your history. I recommend that you read the book: Red Book and Cotton as this book, I believe, will assist you to travel a journey that leads to true-freedom. I also recommend that you view my two videos at John’s YouTube channel (www.youtube.com/johnsolomonsandridge) and consider using the process of !BLAM!ming to heal your past as it is mine.

The titles of the video’s are: 45 and I Still Fear my Mother’s Voice and How and Why to !BLAM! paRENTS.

Theresa Jane

]]> By: Kate http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/2010/01/06/i-have-received-2-different-reactions-from-my-parents-from-balmming-them/comment-page-1/#comment-100 Kate Fri, 08 Jan 2010 15:16:24 +0000 http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.wordpress.com/?p=1391#comment-100 Theresa, I'm 47, second to the youngest of 12 children, raised with an alcoholic father, enabling mother. Am at the place of being given the key to open back up to my sexuality after all these years of having pulled the plug on it to feel safe. I don't know what all lies behind the doors of my locked up fortress. I know my older sisters endured sexual incest and for as long as I can remember I knew it wasn't safe to show what was developing by hiding under sweatshirts. Any of this ring any bells with you? Kate Theresa,
I’m 47, second to the youngest of 12 children, raised with an alcoholic father, enabling mother. Am at the place of being given the key to open back up to my sexuality after all these years of having pulled the plug on it to feel safe. I don’t know what all lies behind the doors of my locked up fortress. I know my older sisters endured sexual incest and for as long as I can remember I knew it wasn’t safe to show what was developing by hiding under sweatshirts. Any of this ring any bells with you?
Kate

]]> By: fromhousewifetofilmmaker http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/2010/01/06/i-have-received-2-different-reactions-from-my-parents-from-balmming-them/comment-page-1/#comment-99 fromhousewifetofilmmaker Thu, 07 Jan 2010 06:47:50 +0000 http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.wordpress.com/?p=1391#comment-99 I have to say a solid and firm yes, that my mother's religion creates a worse scenrio to her behavior. Taking how she continues to live with the pain and turmoil of her childhood (that she claims doesn't exist) and vaults it through the ceiling and on into the outer stratosphere. The situation with my dad is amazingly better. I will say that it is still foreign and can be a awkward at times as we try to get to know one another. Thank you for your loving concern and comments. Theresa Jane I have to say a solid and firm yes, that my mother’s religion creates a worse scenrio to her behavior. Taking how she continues to live with the pain and turmoil of her childhood (that she claims doesn’t exist) and vaults it through the ceiling and on into the outer stratosphere.
The situation with my dad is amazingly better. I will say that it is still foreign and can be a awkward at times as we try to get to know one another.
Thank you for your loving concern and comments.
Theresa Jane

]]> By: Kellie Sklarz http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/2010/01/06/i-have-received-2-different-reactions-from-my-parents-from-balmming-them/comment-page-1/#comment-98 Kellie Sklarz Wed, 06 Jan 2010 19:45:55 +0000 http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.wordpress.com/?p=1391#comment-98 Theresa, I will keep you and you family in my thoughts and prayers. I am truly sorry for the pain you have suffered. Does your Mother's religion have anything to do with her behavior? If so, I am in no way justifying her behavior I am just curious? I am happy that your Dad has shown you remorse and you have been able to forgive. That could not have been easy for either of you. I also hope the load you have been carrying has been lightened. I hope for your Mother's sake that she can apologize and work to be a better person. If not she will be missing out having a relationship with a very special woman. She has missed out on so much already with you and your kids. Theresa, I will keep you and you family in my thoughts and prayers. I am truly sorry for the pain you have suffered. Does your Mother’s religion have anything to do with her behavior? If so, I am in no way justifying her behavior I am just curious? I am happy that your Dad has shown you remorse and you have been able to forgive. That could not have been easy for either of you. I also hope the load you have been carrying has been lightened. I hope for your Mother’s sake that she can apologize and work to be a better person. If not she will be missing out having a relationship with a very special woman. She has missed out on so much already with you and your kids.

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