From House Wife To Film Maker

Tonight there was another step forward healing my relationship with my adult child that said they wanted nothing to do with me.  We spent an evening together, that they initiated, and it was wonderful.  So wonderful that we were supposed to watch a movie but we never got to it because we talked so long.  The talking was light and easy.  No strain, like old times.  Another step forward.  Thankfully.

I was going to write more about our evening, but then I watched one of the videos that my business partner, John Solomon, created and posted yesterday.  It compelled me to go in a different direction.  Because what’s more important than our relationship healing and improving is how we’ve been getting to the improvement.  If you’re in the same place I’ve been you want to know.  You’re desperate to know how to reunite with the child/ren you love and care for but nothing seems to work and everything stays the same.

It begins with…

PARENTAL RESPOND-sibility
is the straightest path to our children healing.
(And relationships mending.)

How do I know??

Well, let’s look at me. You can’t miss the difference between how I’ve related to my mother and step-father in my prior posts.

Then there’s my children. As I related in prior posts like this one: Click here. Let’s take the one who came over last night.  For over a year “this one” had issues that were growing toward me and I wasn’t sure why.  But that we were on a slippery slope downward had been obvious, till we reached the bottom and “they” told me, “I want to have very little, to nothing, to do with you ever again.”

A relationship broken
and all the kings horses and all the kings men
couldn’t put it back together again.

(And this was one of the children that I had had the closet relationship with through the years.)

Things were so bad, that honestly, I thought we were looking at years of NO relationship, if ever at all.   And if ever, then I expected it to be a fragile, delicate relationship.

Thankfully our relationship has recently been improving.  Little by little.  Baby step by baby step.  However it would not have unless I honestly took my responsibility for what I created.

So there had been hope.
There is hope.
It comes in the form of me
bearing my responsibility.
That has been creating (we’re still in process) the improvement.

More on this topic tomorrow.

Night, Love ya,
Theresa Jane
- by parental responsibility I’m not saying that we must take responsibility for their actual actions, but how they got there in the first place.  How we RESPOND to them.

Tags: healing, healing relationships with our children, how to heal relationship with children

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