Comments on: To Be Invisible or Visible That is the Question? . . . http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/2010/01/26/to-be-invisible-or-visible-that-is-the-question/ My journey out of: 21 years as a housewife, stay at home, homeschooling mom of 8 and into one as a entrepreneur business woman/mom Thu, 20 Jan 2011 20:23:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: TheresaJane http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/2010/01/26/to-be-invisible-or-visible-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-176 TheresaJane Thu, 04 Feb 2010 06:17:18 +0000 http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/?p=1589#comment-176 Oh LOL I had to read your comment a few times before I got it... very witty. :) Theresa Jane Oh LOL I had to read your comment a few times before I got it… very witty. :)
Theresa Jane

]]> By: Kellie Sklarz http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/2010/01/26/to-be-invisible-or-visible-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-169 Kellie Sklarz Wed, 03 Feb 2010 05:00:33 +0000 http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/?p=1589#comment-169 I think Walmart zaps peoples souls at the door. Everyone I ever talk to say if possible they would never shop there again. I am one of those people. I am also the person that hears you sneeze 3 aisles away and yells Bless You. I see a short person stretching to get something and offer to get it for them. I was raised that way, and refuse to let Walmart take that from me. I don't care about skin color, religion or Political views, if you sneeze and I can hear it I will say Bless You. I guess you could say I put out what I want back. I think the rule we should follow is the Golden Rule. That should be all we really need. Just in-case I missed Y'all, God Bless You! I think Walmart zaps peoples souls at the door. Everyone I ever talk to say if possible they would never shop there again. I am one of those people. I am also the person that hears you sneeze 3 aisles away and yells Bless You. I see a short person stretching to get something and offer to get it for them. I was raised that way, and refuse to let Walmart take that from me. I don’t care about skin color, religion or Political views, if you sneeze and I can hear it I will say Bless You. I guess you could say I put out what I want back. I think the rule we should follow is the Golden Rule. That should be all we really need. Just in-case I missed Y’all, God Bless You!

]]> By: TheresaJane http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/2010/01/26/to-be-invisible-or-visible-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-158 TheresaJane Sun, 31 Jan 2010 09:05:53 +0000 http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/?p=1589#comment-158 I am honored to have been a part of your healing and growing. Thank you for letting me know by sharing it here. It inspires me to continue, never knowing who is listening and who is needing what I share. Your welcome, Theresa Jane I am honored to have been a part of your healing and growing. Thank you for letting me know by sharing it here. It inspires me to continue, never knowing who is listening and who is needing what I share.
Your welcome,
Theresa Jane

]]> By: Kate http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/2010/01/26/to-be-invisible-or-visible-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-157 Kate Sat, 30 Jan 2010 14:26:18 +0000 http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/?p=1589#comment-157 TJ, Because you made this forum for me to give feedback on what I was thinking, I was able to go the next step in asking God for wisdom and insight and then got the picture. Thank YOU! Kate TJ,
Because you made this forum for me to give feedback on what I was thinking, I was able to go the next step in asking God for wisdom and insight and then got the picture. Thank YOU!
Kate

]]> By: TheresaJane http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/2010/01/26/to-be-invisible-or-visible-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-154 TheresaJane Sat, 30 Jan 2010 00:53:20 +0000 http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/?p=1589#comment-154 Kate, I think that this is wildly wonderful. The picture in your mind is so cool and readily avaible to you when you need it. I love it. Gald to hear that you are progressing and thankful that you're sharing your story with me. Theresa Jane Kate,
I think that this is wildly wonderful. The picture in your mind is so cool and readily avaible to you when you need it. I love it. Gald to hear that you are progressing and thankful that you’re sharing your story with me.
Theresa Jane

]]> By: Kate http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/2010/01/26/to-be-invisible-or-visible-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-152 Kate Fri, 29 Jan 2010 13:44:54 +0000 http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/?p=1589#comment-152 I have been given a picture in my mind of how to see what goes on invisibly since I wrote my last post. It has to do with seeing an umbilical cord, severing it with those who want to hand off their stuff to me and then reconnecting the cord to my Life source...Jesus Christ. I am seeing already what you are talking about as far as initially it feels like I don't care if I don't take on others stuff, but now I see that lie. Now, when I see my husband has sadness or resentment or whatever, I step into another room if he doesn''t want to own and work through it. I place no judgment on him for not wanting to work through it and go to have a conversation with God about him. I ask God to help him to see how unconditionally loved he is by Him and place the emotions I saw in my husband into His hands to do with what He sees best. This picture is strengthening my relationship with God and allowing me to feel the love God has for the people who at present time don't know how or don't feel safe enough to work through their own emotions. It's a win win win....for me, for our Father God and for the one trying to get rid of their emotions by giving them to me. Pretty wild, eh? I have been given a picture in my mind of how to see what goes on invisibly since I wrote my last post. It has to do with seeing an umbilical cord, severing it with those who want to hand off their stuff to me and then reconnecting the cord to my Life source…Jesus Christ. I am seeing already what you are talking about as far as initially it feels like I don’t care if I don’t take on others stuff, but now I see that lie. Now, when I see my husband has sadness or resentment or whatever, I step into another room if he doesn”t want to own and work through it. I place no judgment on him for not wanting to work through it and go to have a conversation with God about him. I ask God to help him to see how unconditionally loved he is by Him and place the emotions I saw in my husband into His hands to do with what He sees best. This picture is strengthening my relationship with God and allowing me to feel the love God has for the people who at present time don’t know how or don’t feel safe enough to work through their own emotions. It’s a win win win….for me, for our Father God and for the one trying to get rid of their emotions by giving them to me.
Pretty wild, eh?

]]> By: TheresaJane http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/2010/01/26/to-be-invisible-or-visible-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-150 TheresaJane Fri, 29 Jan 2010 07:12:56 +0000 http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/?p=1589#comment-150 Nuts, I had your reply nearly done and I did something and lost the whole thing. So here goes again. I can totally relate to your comment. I used to be like you. I think that those that went through childhood trauma tend to be this way. We learned as children to become carriers of our parents s*** and as we grew it was normal for us to broaden this way of being into everyone around us. And those around us are relieved to have someone to dump their stuff onto so they eagerly do and we have no idea how not to carry their stuff. This is something that has taken me a very long time to learn that first of all I do and second to stop and at times I can still slip into it. It is something that my life coach teaches me in both private sessions and classes. It's discussed a lot and I'm thankful. Because the more I can keep my self from picking up others stuff and carrying it for them the freer I become, the more I life my life. None of us are responsible to carry anyone's stuff but our own. We are not required to become round shouldered for anyone. Everyone creates their own life and they are responsible for it. I've learned to assist them if they want it, listen if they need that, but I'm getting fairly good at not carrying others garbage. It takes conscious effort to come out of this way of being. But it is defiantly worth the commitment to ourselves to free ourselves from this pattern we developed. It feels foreign at first and a lot like betrayal and non-caring/loving. But it isn't. It's our birth right to life free of others stuff, it's just that somewhere when we were little itty bittys we decided the stuff our parents wanted us to carry was something that we had to do and then it got all distorted with love for them and toward us. We felt obligated. We relented to and shouldered their stuff. Meanwhile they go around happy and burden free while we slump under the weight. Others can pick up on our openness to carry their stuff and so they happily dump it on us carriers so they can skip off free and happy till they have more to dump, then they find another carrier. Again this is not a requirement for love or acceptance. We just believe it is. And a lot of what someone that's been through trauma beLIEves are simply lies that we've told ourselves or others have told us. Coming out of this way of being is one of the most freeing and liberating experiences someone can do. I know. I am and I can testify to its truth. So I encourage you to do all you can to free yourself of doing this and tell yourself that you love yourself too much to not live your own life so others can live theirs. You deserve your life. You only have one. Live it for yourself. And read Red Book and Cotton / Journey to True-Freedom. Give yourself some freedom today. Theresa Jane Nuts, I had your reply nearly done and I did something and lost the whole thing.
So here goes again.
I can totally relate to your comment. I used to be like you. I think that those that went through childhood trauma tend to be this way. We learned as children to become carriers of our parents s*** and as we grew it was normal for us to broaden this way of being into everyone around us. And those around us are relieved to have someone to dump their stuff onto so they eagerly do and we have no idea how not to carry their stuff.

This is something that has taken me a very long time to learn that first of all I do and second to stop and at times I can still slip into it. It is something that my life coach teaches me in both private sessions and classes. It’s discussed a lot and I’m thankful. Because the more I can keep my self from picking up others stuff and carrying it for them the freer I become, the more I life my life. None of us are responsible to carry anyone’s stuff but our own. We are not required to become round shouldered for anyone. Everyone creates their own life and they are responsible for it. I’ve learned to assist them if they want it, listen if they need that, but I’m getting fairly good at not carrying others garbage.

It takes conscious effort to come out of this way of being. But it is defiantly worth the commitment to ourselves to free ourselves from this pattern we developed. It feels foreign at first and a lot like betrayal and non-caring/loving. But it isn’t. It’s our birth right to life free of others stuff, it’s just that somewhere when we were little itty bittys we decided the stuff our parents wanted us to carry was something that we had to do and then it got all distorted with love for them and toward us. We felt obligated. We relented to and shouldered their stuff. Meanwhile they go around happy and burden free while we slump under the weight. Others can pick up on our openness to carry their stuff and so they happily dump it on us carriers so they can skip off free and happy till they have more to dump, then they find another carrier. Again this is not a requirement for love or acceptance. We just believe it is. And a lot of what someone that’s been through trauma beLIEves are simply lies that we’ve told ourselves or others have told us. Coming out of this way of being is one of the most freeing and liberating experiences someone can do. I know. I am and I can testify to its truth.

So I encourage you to do all you can to free yourself of doing this and tell yourself that you love yourself too much to not live your own life so others can live theirs. You deserve your life. You only have one. Live it for yourself. And read Red Book and Cotton / Journey to True-Freedom. Give yourself some freedom today.
Theresa Jane

]]> By: TheresaJane http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/2010/01/26/to-be-invisible-or-visible-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-149 TheresaJane Fri, 29 Jan 2010 06:45:51 +0000 http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/?p=1589#comment-149 LOL. I did think about your "invisibility" when I wrote my post, but honestly there was no silent message there. I was full blown into writing it when I had the thought..."Wonder if Invisible Mikey is going to think I wrote this because of him?" And I'm like your reading with the same question, "why invisible". Have to ask now this is all out there in the open being looked at. I mean, how could I not?? :) I wish I had more time to get to figuring out the whole picture thing on here. My time has been sliding steadily through the hour glass with no time to breath hardly. And there are certain things that just aren't getting attention. Pictures is one of those things. I have no idea what they do differently from the wp.com to here but something sure the deuce is because it isn't the 1,2,3 of wp.com. When I get a moment I'm going over to see what was discussed on your blog that stirred that commmenter to comment :) Theresa Jane LOL. I did think about your “invisibility” when I wrote my post, but honestly there was no silent message there. I was full blown into writing it when I had the thought…”Wonder if Invisible Mikey is going to think I wrote this because of him?” And I’m like your reading with the same question, “why invisible”. Have to ask now this is all out there in the open being looked at. I mean, how could I not?? :)

I wish I had more time to get to figuring out the whole picture thing on here. My time has been sliding steadily through the hour glass with no time to breath hardly. And there are certain things that just aren’t getting attention. Pictures is one of those things. I have no idea what they do differently from the wp.com to here but something sure the deuce is because it isn’t the 1,2,3 of wp.com.

When I get a moment I’m going over to see what was discussed on your blog that stirred that commmenter to comment :)
Theresa Jane

]]> By: Kate http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/2010/01/26/to-be-invisible-or-visible-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-147 Kate Thu, 28 Jan 2010 00:54:59 +0000 http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/?p=1589#comment-147 It is really weird for me when I do smile at a stranger in a grocery store and they continue just to stare into space like through me giving no positive or negative animation to their face...robotic sci-fi like. Even though it feels weird as I get no response to my smile I do understand their state as like you, it is my state also at times. And this non-expression for me comes from when I am so full up with stuff I don't want to feel that in order to survive the day, I must side-step what others may need to psychically invisibly unload into may already full pot. I still do not understand fully why I can stand in front of a person and take on what they are feeling, but it goes on day in and day out with me. It has made it difficult to sort through and take responsibility for my own emotions because there's my husband's sadness and my friends restlessness and and and. So all I can do is inquire of them - Are you feeling sad? Are you restless? and guess what, they are feeling these things but don't want to own and process them. So I end up with their feelings shoved into my soul. Kind of like someone taking a dump in your living room. I know this sounds rather crazy and I find few to none who address this. I guess it is what you call a burden bearer. I am trying to learn what to do with others burdens. In the past, I thought it was just me and that led me into cycles of depression as a result of not knowing what to do about it. Anyway, what you wrote about made me think of this because of your question about wondering what is happening inside these people. It is really weird for me when I do smile at a stranger in a grocery store and they continue just to stare into space like through me giving no positive or negative animation to their face…robotic sci-fi like. Even though it feels weird as I get no response to my smile I do understand their state as like you, it is my state also at times.
And this non-expression for me comes from when I am so full up with stuff I don’t want to feel that in order to survive the day, I must side-step what others may need to psychically invisibly unload into may already full pot. I still do not understand fully why I can stand in front of a person and take on what they are feeling, but it goes on day in and day out with me.
It has made it difficult to sort through and take responsibility for my own emotions because there’s my husband’s sadness and my friends restlessness and and and. So all I can do is inquire of them – Are you feeling sad? Are you restless? and guess what, they are feeling these things but don’t want to own and process them. So I end up with their feelings shoved into my soul. Kind of like someone taking a dump in your living room. I know this sounds rather crazy and I find few to none who address this. I guess it is what you call a burden bearer. I am trying to learn what to do with others burdens. In the past, I thought it was just me and that led me into cycles of depression as a result of not knowing what to do about it.
Anyway, what you wrote about made me think of this because of your question about wondering what is happening inside these people.

]]> By: Invisible Mikey http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/2010/01/26/to-be-invisible-or-visible-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-146 Invisible Mikey Wed, 27 Jan 2010 21:08:58 +0000 http://fromhousewifetofilmmaker.com/?p=1589#comment-146 This is a very interesting post, which I enjoyed thinking about. It's also weird (and cool) because BEFORE reading it I posted a variation of the same topic today, in response to someone who asked me why I don't write about who I am. (Why "Invisible Mikey"?) They were curious. Re: yesterday's topic Uploaded pix to WordPress.com get resized by the software. When you select the "upload image" icon above the box for a new post, it then allows you to select what resolution. If you don't select one, there's a default "medium" setting. Their "full size" setting is 450x pixels. I dunno how WordPress.net works by comparison. I'm still at the Blogging for Dummies stage. This is a very interesting post, which I enjoyed thinking about.

It’s also weird (and cool) because BEFORE reading it I posted a variation of the same topic today, in response to someone who asked me why I don’t write about who I am. (Why “Invisible Mikey”?) They were curious.

Re: yesterday’s topic
Uploaded pix to WordPress.com get resized by the software. When you select the “upload image” icon above the box for a new post, it then allows you to select what resolution. If you don’t select one, there’s a default “medium” setting. Their “full size” setting is 450x pixels. I dunno how WordPress.net works by comparison. I’m still at the Blogging for Dummies stage.

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