You may be wondering what on earth?  !BLAM!?   Never heard of it.  Well, !BLAM! stands for something very special…

What is the true meaning of !BLAM! ?

B-birthing
L-love
A-affection
M-mercy

The whole intent of the process is for relationships to heal.  Families to unite.  And if that isn’t the result, then at the very least the one !BLAM!ing will experience healing.

I have been actively participating in the process of !BLAM!ming.  Both with my parents and my kids.  It has been creating some of the most powerful healing that I could ever imagine.  I’ve blogged about the relationship with my children and how to my disappointment and bewilderment our relationship broke down when they entered their adult years and how we’ve been healing it with the process of  !BLAM!.  You can find this post: Part 1 How I’ve Hurt My Kids and Screwed Them Up.  Part 2 follows.  Then I continue more with our relationship and !BLAM! in this post: Taking my paRENTal RESPOND-sbility and
All the King’s Horses and All the King’s Men Couldn’t Help Me.  This is a series of posts that moves forward from there.

I’ve also !BLAM!med my parents and those posts begin at the post: Part 4 Where I’ve Been and Where I’m going. The following is a video of me !BLAM!ming my parents. This video is posted at John Solomon Sandridge’s Youtube Channel there are also other videos of me there that you may want to view as well.

Beyond that the following comes from information that John Solomon wrote and posted to his web site to further explain !BLAM!…

Reasons To !BLAM! PaRENTs

!BLAM! is the acronym for: Birthing Love Affection & Mercy.  To !BLAM! is the first step of a Healing-Process that gives the !BLAM!mer the opportunity to regurgitate – verbally say aloud to the offender (paRENTs) in the presence of a witness – the unprocessed thoughts, feelings, and emotions about scary, nasty, mean, and bad experiences had during childhood, which came from the bullies who called themselves . . . paRENTs (or guardians).

!BLAM!ming is painful.  It is painful for the son/daughter who is doing it and for the paRENTs/guardian who are receiving it, and ideally both will heal HATE-FILLED UNRESOLVED-SHOVED UNDER THE RUG-FAMILY-ISSUES.

!BLAM!

2,000-years ago Jesus said, “You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you . . . free.”

150-years ago Nimrod said, “Your being honest heals and healing leads to . . . “*True-Freedom.”

Truth sets one free, honesty heals and leads to true-freedom, and both promote inner-peace, self-love and a peaceful-mind.  As I listen to America’s *YOUth cry for love – their alcoholism, drug addiction, overeating, pornography, and violence – via the news, I see their generation slipping further into moral-decay: a decline in conscience (sense) of principles of right and wrong in behavior.  Personally, I am of the opinion this is happening because of the way our YOUth was treated by us – *paRENTs – during conception, infancy, childhood, puberty, and adolescence.

To illustrate the point that America’s YOUth, our sons and daughters, have reasons to !BLAM! their paRENTs – us – is seen/heard in the RElationSHIP had between well-known rap-singer, Eminem.  As for the results of his mother’s treatment of him, when he was growing-up, he states in a song produced by him and it tells his history – his story – which was anything other than nurturing.  The song says:

“My mom loved valium and lots of drugs
that’s why I am like I am ‘cause I’m like her . . .
‘cause I’m my mom . . .
. . . this is just a story when I was just a shorty
and how I became hooked on valium . . .
she sprinkled just enough of it to season my steak,
so everyday I had at least three stomach aches
now tell what kinda mother would want to see
her, son grow up to be an under-a-!*#!^!’-chiever

How can we – paRENTs – deny this young man’s reason for striking-out at his mother for what he says she did to him during his childhood-innocence?  Sure, we can justify her acts by saying, “She did the best she could.”  And that would be true.  But, the results of her “I did my best” also damaged his self-esteem – mental, emotional, psychological, and physical health.

By no means do I think Eminem should “blaME” his mother.  He just needs to !BLAM! her *Personal-Living-Hell out of her.

What I mean by Personal-Living-Hell is, I feel any paRENT who consciously or unconsciously spoke, acted-out, and thought anything that was less than loving to and about their children harmed them mentally, emotionally, psychologically, and physically and is surely “living hell on earth”: A Personal-Living-Hell.

Furthermore, Eminem had this to say about his teacher:

My teacher didn’t think I was gonna be nothing either, . . .”

Eminem’s self-esteem was destroyed at home and school.  (“Man . . . that must’ve been a serious mind-trip!”)

To illustrate the fact that most, if-not-all, American paRENTs need to be !BLAM!med for the unconscious cruelty they’ve brought against their children was seen in a Sponge Bob Saturday morning cartoon on January 2, 2010:

Sponge Bob: “You’re not dumb.  Who told you, you’re dumb?”
Human Baby: “That’s what my parents said.”

Well, I say even cartoon-characters are now saying, “America’s paRENTs, please wake-up and take your love-and-nurture-starved-children’s . . . !BLAM!ming!

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